Has Our World Become Less Kind?

Are we becoming less kind? Has kindness become something we eschew these days? When we look around us, especially on Social Media these days, it can seem that life has taken us to a place where we no longer value kindness as a trait.  It can feel that, kindness has been replaced with self-importance and wanting to stay impersonal. The question is why has the world become less kind?

Is it that we no longer care about others? Do we believe kindness makes us weak? Is the lack of kindness from some global change?

Some might say that kindness has become less and less important in our daily lives for several reasons.

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How to Move On When You Make a Mistake

If you are like most people, then you have probably lost quite a bit of sleep to ruminating on past mistakes. Everyone does that. They lay in their bed at night and just as they are about to sleep, they start dwelling on some mistake they made.

Sometimes the mistake was yesterday and sometimes the mistake was a decade ago. Thankfully, there are a lot of different strategies that you can try to make getting over a mistake a lot easier. In this article, you will find out a few different ways that you can get over mistakes, no matter how severe.

Look for Some Positives

No matter how severe a mistake is, there is a good chance that it may have some positive aspects to it. You have to try and look for a silver lining in any mistake and focus on that, instead of the negatives. A good example of this would be mistakes that cause you to learn something.

We all make mistakes, but we also all learn from our mistakes as well. Focus less on the mistake, and more on what you learned as a result of the mistake.

Look at the Mistake in Context

One thing about humans is that we tend to really overinflate the impact of mistakes in our mind. Sometimes it can be helpful to try and distance yourself from a mistake and ask yourself “did it really matter in the end?”

This happens a lot with social gaffes. People say the wrong thing to someone and assume that the other person was very offended by it and is thinking about it; however, the reality is often that the person has forgotten about the conversation entirely. So, it is worth distancing yourself from a mistake and asking if the mistake is really as bad as you are making it out to be.

Do Something to Make Amends

A big reason why so many people dwell on mistakes is that they don’t ever do anything to make up for the mistake. Making up for the mistake, if that’s possible, can really help you to stop dwelling on it.

Obviously, this doesn’t apply to every mistake, but if you can think of a way to try and repair the damage done by a mistake that you made, that will go a long way towards helping you to overcome the mistake and move on.

Letting Go

Do we need to focus on letting go of the negativity which is so prevalent these days? I almost titled this post “Is Brexit Bad for You? because if you live in the UK it feels as if you cannot avoid the topic when you go online! There is no doubt (and I have read research around this) that Brexit or rather what my late Grandmother would have called the shenanigans is having an impact on the Mental Health of many in the UK.

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Are You Experiencing Compassion Fatigue?

Do you wonder if you are perhaps suffering from Compassion Fatigue? In today’s world we are bombarded by news 24/7 and events around the world come into our homes. It can at times feel overwhelming can’t it when so many things compete for our emotional reactions? I have heard people mention that they feel a sense of being overwhelmed and unable to feel the depth of compassion that they might have had when we knew less of the world around us.

Should we feel guilty about that? In my view the response is no – we are probably finding ourselves suffering a form of Compassion fatigue brought about because of the level of demand placed upon us by our consumption of news from around the world.

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What Do You Really Want?

Do you know what you want in life going forward from today?

Over the past few months I have had the opportunity to reflect on where I want to focus my energies going forward, the sort of work I want to be doing and the type of organisation I want to work for. I feel quite fortunate that I have had the time and space to think about those things and to come to some conclusions.

However, even in the rush of our daily lives we can find some time just to stop and think about what we really want from life can’t we? Whether it’s when travelling by train, taking some time at the weekend to go for a walk or just quietly sat in a corner at some point in the day.

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