Born Into Slavery

A reflection on discovering that one of my ancestors was Born into Slavery.

As my connections will be aware I am very keen on tracing my Family History. I have always been fascinated by the twists and turns that the journey of exploration can take us on and these last few days have certainly seen things take an unexpected turn!

Some years ago I took a DNA Test which gave me some insights into my genealogy many of which were what I had expected.  However, I have always been intrigued by the reference to West Africa in my DNA although I hadn’t especially pursued it.

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I Am Scared and That’s Okay!

I am scared and that really is okay! As someone who writes/blogs a lot I have really struggled to write over the past few weeks as we have seen our country and indeed the world respond to Coronavirus and the associated Lockdowns.

That has really troubled me because I have always found writing a great way of thinking things through and very enjoyable. I have challenged myself over the past few days to find a way through this “writer’s block” and write something! The more I have pondered on it the more I have come to realise that there is an article I need to write and this is that article.

“I am scared and that’s okay” is the perfect title for the article because it sums up exactly how I have been feeling and continue to feel.

Back on 1st April I made the first attempt to write something and whilst I would never claim to be a poet others thanked me for my poetry! The words I wrote and subsequently created a screensaver for my computer were:

It’s Okay.

It’s Okay to be scared
It’s Okay to want to Scream
It’s Okay to want to cry
It’s Okay to just want it all to go away

It’s Okay to be You
It’s Okay to do what is right for you right now
It’s Okay to Hope

It’s Okay because We Will get through this!

#ItsOkay

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Being Kind Every Day

In recent months it has been almost impossible to avoid the exhortations to “Be Kind” on Social Media with people using the phrase and hashtag #BeKind each time something untoward or upsetting happens. As is almost inevitable those same people exhorting others to “Be Kind” will then move swiftly on to criticise the latest minor celebrity.

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Volunteering Your Time – The Amazing Benefits

Have you considered Volunteering your Time to help others? There are many benefits for both the volunteer and the organisations that you volunteer for.

It’s true that we all have many competing responsibilities in our busy lives.   There are times when it can be  hard to figure out how you will ever get everything done. Whilst it may sound counter-intuitive spending some of your time volunteering for a worthy cause just may be the thing you need to get things moving on the right track.   

As I said volunteering your time is something that benefits not just the organisations and other  recipients of your contribution, but it can also improve your life too!

Here are seven reasons why you may benefit from volunteering some of your time:  

Making New Friends

All of us to some extent are social creatures. We are meant to genuinely and authentically connect with others. Volunteering your time is a natural, organic way to meet others who share the same interests.

Building Personal and Professional Connections

If it’s not something you are used to then “Networking” may sound a bit odd. However, in this day and age, it is necessary  to meet other people so you can gain exposure to new experiences and opportunities. Volunteering is an excellent way to build personal and professional contacts without traditional “networking”, if that’s not really your style.

Building Your Self-esteem and Self-confidence

If you find yourself struggling with self-esteem and confidence, volunteer! You will feel great about contributing to a cause greater than yourself, and as you accomplish different tasks, you will learn new skills and find yourself growing more competent in the area of your choosing.

To Make a Difference in the World

Do you ever find yourself thinking that there is too much greed, evil, poverty or other issues in the world? Do you wish there was something that you were able to  do about it? You may not be able to change the whole world but through volunteering you can make a difference in your community or around issues that you are passionate about! You will find that you can  experience a sense of purpose by making a difference in the world. If when deciding how you are going to go about volunteering your time  you choose a cause that truly resonates with what you feel are the big problems of the world we inhabit.

Add Experience to Your CV

Very few of us nowadays are in the same jobs or even  the same career for ourr entire adult lives. Yet, if you are looking for a career change that represents a big departure from your current skillset, then you are going to discover that there’s a bit of a catch-22 scenario.

Without experience on your resume, nobody will give you a solid chance. But without a solid chance, you’ll never get relevant experience.

What do you do?

Volunteer, of course!

If you really want to break into a new sector or feel tempted to test the waters of a life change, why not consider volunteering a few hours at a time to help fill in the gaps on your CV while helping a cause you care for?

Improving your Health

One often overlooked benefit of volunteering is that it could help improve your health.

Depending on the volunteer activity you select, you could gain some valuable outdoor time, which would improve your physical health. You could also  try something nurturing and soothing for your mental health like keeping lonely senior citizens company at nursing homes. Or you could even try something spiritually uplifting like going Christmas caroling during the holiday season.

There are many options and many ways volunteering could benefit your health – you have to be creative with selection.

Having Fun!

Last but not least, one of the real benefits of volunteering your time  is that it can be lots of fun! Maybe you get a group of friends together and go on a beach or local park/community area  clean-up day. Or you do a charity fundraiser walk.

The possibilities are truly endless!

Volunteering Your Time Conclusion

You really  will get a lot more out of your volunteer experience than you put in. Take a look at some of the causes looking for volunteers in your neighborhood today, and see which may be a good fit for your personality and your lifestyle.

You will gain so much more than you contribute on so many levels – and you really will be happy you gave it a go.

Need More Self-Discipline?

Is self-discipline an area that you need to improve in? If so then hopefully the following tips and advice will help you get to grips with this skill which often challenges people!

Self-discipline is definitely something I am focused on at the moment! As someone who has recently started to undertake formal study again (for the Certificate in Assessing Vocational Achievement) I am having to be very self-disciplined.

Each day we have choices to make. Wake up early and do some early morning exercise, or get an extra hour of sleep? Pack a healthy lunch to take to work, or buy something at lunchtime? Throw a little extra money in your savings account, or buy that new gadget or pair of shoes you’ve been thinking about all month?

Deep down inside, we know which actions will yield the best results. Yet many of us struggle with making the best decisions. How do we overcome these challenges? Self-discipline is the answer.

Why Is Self-Discipline Important?

If you want to be successful and reach your goals, self-discipline is the most crucial skill to master. Frequently, the best choices aren’t the fastest, easiest, or most pleasant. So you must exercise a high level of control over your emotions and behaviour. Improving your ability to do what is best for you regardless of initial desire is the only way to make consistent progress in life. As such, if self-discipline is your foundational skill, you grow more effective in everything you do.

The Benefits Of Self-Discipline

When you develop a stronger sense of self-control, you can expect multiple improvements across many areas of your life. Here are just a few benefits of self-discipline.

1- Improved Health

First, improving your self-discipline leads to improved physical health. Exercising control over the quality and quantity of food you consume, establishing a regular fitness routine, and drinking enough water help you maintain a healthy weight, reduce your chances of illness and disease, and increase your chances of longevity and vitality later in life.

 2- Greater Academic and Career Success

Next, self-discipline helps you make choices that can lead to higher academic and career success. Sometimes you must choose between studying longer hours and spending time out with friends, or staying late after work to complete a project and heading home to relax. Self-discipline helps you see the value of delayed gratification, which pays off down the line.

3- Better Relationships

Third, self-discipline improves your relationships because you become a person who follows through on your commitments. People in your life learn they can trust you to do what you say you will, and they view you more favorably.

4- Better Financial Health

Next, gaining better control over your finances is another direct benefit of self-discipline. While it’s more fun to spend money than it is to save, the disciplined individual sees the long-term benefit of putting money away for a rainy day. That’s not to say you pinch pennies and sacrifice quality of life. Self-discipline isn’t supposed to make you miserable. Instead, it’s about weighing the pros and cons and making decisions that bring you closer to your goals.

Examples of financial self-discipline that don’t require total restriction include regularly putting a certain percentage of each paycheck into your savings account or sticking to a budget that allocates a certain amount of money each month for discretionary spending. You still get to enjoy the present, though, not at the expense of your future.

5- Fewer Regrets

Another benefit of growing more self-disciplined is that you’ll have fewer regrets because you make better choices in the first place.

You’ll eliminate such problems as saying the wrong thing at the wrong time because you’re disciplined enough to think before speaking.

You’ll avoid jumping to conclusions, give yourself time to gather information before making decisions, and make choices based on facts rather than emotion or opinion.

6- Improved Time Management

With an ever-growing list of things vying for our attention, it seems that time is often in short supply. One of the best benefits of self-discipline is improved management of your time.

For example, social media can be the ultimate time-killer if you don’t exercise self-control. While it can be useful at times, you can easily fall into the trap of mindlessly scrolling through news feeds when you could be completing other tasks.

7- See Projects Through To The End

Finally, self-discipline helps you complete tasks and projects that you start, even when you lose steam or desire. Motivation is always high at the beginning of a new goal. Whether it’s a new diet plan, a new business idea, or even new relationships to a certain degree, when things are fresh, there is nothing but excitement and stimulation ahead.

Yet over time, motivation fades, challenges arise, reality sets in, and its tempting to go back to something more familiar or move on to the next shiny object.

Exercising self-control and choosing to finish what you start, within reason, even when you lose motivation and desire means you not only have the finished project under your belt, but you’ve learned lessons and acquired skills you wouldn’t have had you quit.

Conclusion

As the American writer, philosopher and artist, Elbert Hubbard once said, “Self-discipline is the ability to do what you should do, when you should do it, whether you feel like it or not.”

Understanding the importance of self-discipline, then taking steps to improve this most critical skill is perhaps the best thing you can do for your personal development and likelihood of lifetime success.